The message was shorter than usual.
You messed up something that mattered to you.
You looked in the mirror at the wrong moment.
And within seconds, you became the problem.
THE HAND
Stay on your own side. Especially when it hurts.
10 Women · 8 Weeks · Live Online · Starts November 3rd 2026
answer 3 questions, it takes 3 minutes
Hi!
I don’t think you learn how to love yourself on a good day.
Your work is going well. You kept the promise you made to yourself.
You feel wanted. Successful. Certain. Good in your body.
Great.
Who are you to yourself when things are not going well?
When nobody bought.
When someone else gets the thing you want dearly.
When you said too much - or didn’t say what you really thought.
When you knew better and did it anyway.
Those are the moments when choosing yourself actually matters.
What you’ll learn
We won’t talk about self-love in theory.
We’ll work with the moments in your actual life where it becomes difficult.
8 weeks. 8 places where you usually leave your own side.
01 — THE MOMENT
Catch the second something happens — and you make it mean something about you.
02 — THE TWO MINUTES
Know what to do before you spiral, fix, numb or reach outside yourself.
03 — THE SECOND VOICE
Recognize the voice telling you to shrink, wait, be realistic or want less.
04 — THE WAITING
Stay with yourself when you don’t have the answer yet — and life hasn’t said yes.
05 — THE EVIDENCE
Stop using other people’s behaviour, numbers and outcomes as evidence of your worth.
06 — WHEN YOU DISAPPOINT YOURSELF
Learn to come back after you did the thing you knew better than to do.
07 — WHAT YOU REALLY WANT
Want what you want without immediately explaining why you shouldn’t.
08 — THE HAND
Build your own practice for staying on your side when life - just happens. The goal here isn't to have fewer difficult moments. It's to stop losing yourself to them.
What you leave with
You leave with a different response when you are about to turn against yourself.
You notice the message is shorter than usual — without spending the next hour making it mean something about you.
You mess something up — without making yourself pay for it all day.
You see someone getting what you deeply want — and can stay with your own desire instead of turning against yourself.
You break a promise to yourself — and know how to come back instead of deciding you’ve failed again.
Eventually, choosing yourself stops being something you know you should do.
It becomes what you do when you need yourself most.
How we’ll work together
We work with what is actually happening in your life while it’s still alive.
8 × 75-minute live sessions
Real situations. A short teaching. Practice together.
Short weekly audio practices
2–5 minutes, made to be used in real life.
A private group thread
Come while it’s happening, not only once you’ve processed it.
No recordings.
A space to be in, not another library of content to catch up on.
This might be for you if…
You’re capable, independent and used to handling things. But when something really touches you, you still reach outside yourself for the answer, reassurance or permission.
You’ve done inner work. And still, there are moments when all of it seems to disappear.
You want to be a woman who can want deeply, feel deeply, be disappointed, make mistakes, not know what happens next — and stay on her own side through all of it.
3 questions ・about 3 minutes
Meet Mirjam
I’m Mirjam.
For more than a decade, I’ve worked as a professional screenwriter, writing around 70 episodes for German television series.
Along the way, my work expanded from storytelling into exploring the relationship we have with ourselves. I trained in systemic coaching, KAP, breathwork, embodiment work and advanced power dynamics.
I’m interested in the moments where everything we know about ourselves gets tested by what is actually happening.
THE HAND is the work and community I wish I’d had for many of my moments.
Program Details
THE HAND
8 weeks · 10 women · live online
Starts November 3rd, 2026
8 weekly 75-minute live sessions, every Tuesday at 19:00 CET / 1pm ET
Short audio practices between sessions
Private group thread for the full 8 weeks
No recordings, full privacy
€590
or 2 payments of €310
I’m keeping this group to 10 women because I want to know what is happening in your life, not speak into a sea of muted squares
3 questions ・about 3 minutes
FAQs
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You decide what you share. You’ll never be pushed to speak about something you don’t want to. At the same time, THE HAND is participatory rather than a course you quietly consume.
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Live Coaching Labs:
Every Tuesday at 19:00 (7pm) CET starting from November 3rd 2026 -
No. THE HAND is a live practice group and isn’t a substitute for therapy or mental-health treatment. We work with everyday moments of self-abandonment and choosing yourself, rather than diagnosing or treating mental-health conditions.
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Apply through the short form below. I’m keeping the group to 10 women and will personally read every application to make sure the group is a good fit.
THE HAND
8 weeks · 10 women · live online
€590 / 2 × €310
