Maybe you can't choose everything life brings you.
But you can choose what you make of it.?
THE HAND
8 weeks to create the quality of your life.
10 Women · Live Online · Starts November 3rd 2026
answer 3 questions, it takes 3 minutes
Hi!
I don’t think you learn how to love yourself on a good day.
Your work is going well. You kept the promise you made to yourself.
You feel wanted. Successful. Certain. Good in your body.
Great.
Who are you to yourself when things are not going so well?
When nobody bought.
When someone else gets the thing you want dearly.
When you said too much - or didn’t say what you really thought.
This is where choosing yourself gets interesting.
Can you try something new? A new view?
Can you surprise yourself?
Become more of the woman you want to be?
Maybe even to have some fun with it?
Life is happening. What can you make of it?
What you’ll learn
Life will keep giving you material.
Make something great out of it.
8 weeks of discovering and actively practicing what becomes possible when you stop making life your judge and start making it your playground.
01 — THE WOMAN
Who are you choosing to become? Not a perfected version of you but the woman you actually want to experience being.
02 — THE MOMENT
Catch the tiny moments you normally turn against yourself. This becomes the doorway, rather than the problem.
03 — OPTIONS
What else could you do here? Build a repertoire of responses that feel like love, power, humor, pleasure, tenderness, audacity, rather than the one habitual response you know.
04 — THE MIRROR
Stop waiting for circumstances and other people to tell you who you are. Practice seeing yourself through your own eyes.
05 — THE YES
Something went “wrong.” Can you still find life here? Pleasure, curiosity, beauty, something to say yes to? Without pretending you like what happened.
06 — PLAY
Try on the woman you're becoming. Identity as an active experiment rather than self-improvement.
07 — DESIRE
Want greatly without abandoning the life you're already in. Turn complaining into desire and let desire give you direction and aliveness rather than turning the absence of what you want into evidence against yourself.
08 — THE HAND
Become someone you know how to return to: in disappointment, uncertainty, desire, pleasure, mistakes, expansion.
BONUS — WINNING
Can you stay with yourself when it works?
What you leave with
“Whatever happens, I know how to make life mine.”
Choosing yourself and your life stops being something you know you should do.
It becomes what you do when you need yourself most.
How we’ll work together
We work with what is actually happening in your life while it’s still alive.
8 × 75-minute live sessions
Real situations. A short teaching. Practice together.
Short weekly audio practices
2–5 minutes, made to be practiced in real life.
A private group thread
To share your real-life practices.
No recordings.
A space to be in, not another library of content to catch up on.
This might be for you if…
You’re capable, independent and used to handling things. You’ve done inner work and you’re ready for it to become something you live, not only something you understand.
You’re curious about who you could become if you stopped treating every uncomfortable moment as something to fix, and started asking what you could make of it.
You want to meet disappointment differently. Enjoy yourself more. Want what you want. Surprise yourself. Let yourself be seen. And let the good things really land when they come.
You want to be a woman who can make something great out of whatever life gives her.
3 questions ・about 3 minutes
Meet Mirjam
I’m Mirjam.
I’m interested in the moments where everything we know about ourselves gets tested by what is actually happening.
I’ve worked as a professional screenwriter, writing around 70 episodes for German television series. Screenwriting taught me to look beneath what is being said and find the detail that reveals what is true.
Along the way, my work expanded from storytelling into exploring the relationship we have with ourselves. I trained in systemic coaching, KAP, breathwork, embodiment work and advanced power dynamics.
THE HAND is the work and community I wish I’d had for many of the moments when I needed and decided to choose myself and change a challeni
Program Details
THE HAND
8 weeks · 10 women · live online
Starts November 3rd, 2026
8 weekly 75-minute live sessions · Tuesdays at 19:00 CET / 1pm ET
Short audio practices between sessions
Private group thread for the full 8 weeks
No recordings, confidential space
BONUS: A piece of WORD*MAGIC created exclusively for this cohort
€590
I’m keeping this group to 10 women because I want to know what is happening in your life, not speak into a sea of muted squares.
3 questions ・about 3 minutes
FAQs
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You decide what you share. You’ll never be pushed to speak about something you don’t want to. At the same time, THE HAND is participatory rather than a course you quietly consume.
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Live Coaching Labs:
Every Tuesday at 19:00 (7pm) CET starting from November 3rd 2026 -
Life happens. Missing one session is absolutely okay. There won’t be recordings, but you can stay connected through the group thread and the weekly audio practice.
If you already know you’ll miss several sessions, this probably isn’t the right round for you. THE HAND is designed to be experienced live.
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No. THE HAND is a live practice group and isn’t a substitute for therapy or mental-health treatment. We work with everyday moments of self-abandonment and choosing yourself, rather than diagnosing or treating mental-health conditions.
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Apply through the short form below. I’m keeping the group to 10 women and will personally read every application to make sure the group is a good fit.
THE HAND
8 weeks · 10 women · live online
€590 / 2 × €310
